Monday, June 18, 2012

What will work for you

Lately, Brycen has been such a wonderful boy! You acts out less, listen better and control better. Mommy's positive encouragement really works! One day, seeing Brycen so patiently taking good care of brother, helping mommy a lot. Mommy praise him again.
Mommy: Brycen - Mommy noticed that lately you cried less, listen more and has been very helpful for Mommy. Thank you.
Brycen: Thank you Mommy for saying nice words. Sometimes, when you say bad words or shout at me, it really hurts my feeling. Again, thanks for saying nice words.
Mommy: Sorry. But sometimes you did something wrong. Mommy gets very mad.
Brycen: But you can ask me to stop and use the word "Please".
Mommy: all right. I should use nice word "PLEASE" I am sorry. but sometimes even when I gave you warning and asked you to stop. You did not stop but kept doing that.
Brycen: Sometimes I really feel bad. But if you could use nice words say "Please go to your room to enjoy the clock sound. Come out after you feel better. OK?" That is nice words and I would listen. That won't hurt my feeling.
Mommy feel shocked. Yeah how many times we as parent could not control ourselves and just bursted out before kids do. We set a bad example for kids and did not show respect to kids. Now kids know what work best for him and find a way out of there. I am so sorry sweet heart. Mommy and daddy will do this better! Thank you for telling me before you get too old to talk to me what you need. What a wonderful boy I am having. I can't feel be blessed more!

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